For those of you are curious about this, it's a play on an old drawing and extremely short lived meme on DA created by Niko Anesti back in 2006. It had that sort of "funny cause it's not true" humor to it. So, I decided to take a more realistic approach to it. Looking back at all my failed attempts at scoring a relationship and knowing the harsh fact that my career of choice will never let me.
Hooo doggie...has this topic ever been eating me up for the past year or two. But I won't let it, and I don't want to you to, either.
First of all, Malcolm, you run a great blog. I won't identify myself because the topic at hand is rather personal, but I want to help. I know the feeling. I've had morbid thoughts on my less pleasant days, and I'm still lonely and a little tired. But the future and the planet are too colossal to foresee all the possibilities that might result in a relationship. It smacks of cliche but it's true.
I know how rarely familiar words comfort me when I'm in my worse states. Plus, I have no clue where you are, who you know, and many more factors in your situation. But I've gotten from good friends, and given myself, a lot of the advice below. I'll do my best...
Hang in there. Keep your friendships--and if you don't have any, pursue some--with your favorite girls, i.e. the ones you're most comfortable talking to and hanging out with. Don't let failed/absent romance get in the way of enjoying their company. If they're your friends, they probably like you a lot as a person, mmkay?
Build up your affection for girls--that is, appreciate their sensitivity, their style, what makes them uniquely beautiful, as opposed to general lust--so you can give a lot of it to the first girl you click with. And I mean REALLY click. You don't need to find your soul mate, but I learned the hard way that investing my hopes in girls I hardly knew really hurt. I had a vague notion that they weren't interested in me, but I worked so hard to convince myself that they were, that I set myself up for disappointment.
Hope that helps a little. You may have tried a lot of this already, but sometimes I remind myself of this advice so I know what I'm doing right. No, I don't have a girlfriend, but I have a lot of friends who are there for me--and I'm so glad that several of them are girls.
I also learned that friends don't usually reach out to friends on the Internet in difficult times, because the prospective helpers' fear of doing or saying the wrong thing--without semantics and eye contact, at that--is really intimidating. However, I thought it would be okay if I talked to you because I've been through similar sludge. I meant everything I said.
You know Anonymous, it's a shame I don't know who you are. Otherwise, I'd gladly shake your hand.You're right about everything you just said. I have tried those methods before and have gotten little to no results. I think that may be because, I've been spending too much time in my own area that I don't take the time to observe the universe and what it has to offer for me. Thanks for the advice, and don't worry. I ain't goin' anywhere.
Hooo doggie...has this topic ever been eating me up for the past year or two. But I won't let it, and I don't want to you to, either.
ReplyDeleteFirst of all, Malcolm, you run a great blog. I won't identify myself because the topic at hand is rather personal, but I want to help. I know the feeling. I've had morbid thoughts on my less pleasant days, and I'm still lonely and a little tired. But the future and the planet are too colossal to foresee all the possibilities that might result in a relationship. It smacks of cliche but it's true.
I know how rarely familiar words comfort me when I'm in my worse states. Plus, I have no clue where you are, who you know, and many more factors in your situation. But I've gotten from good friends, and given myself, a lot of the advice below. I'll do my best...
Hang in there. Keep your friendships--and if you don't have any, pursue some--with your favorite girls, i.e. the ones you're most comfortable talking to and hanging out with. Don't let failed/absent romance get in the way of enjoying their company. If they're your friends, they probably like you a lot as a person, mmkay?
Build up your affection for girls--that is, appreciate their sensitivity, their style, what makes them uniquely beautiful, as opposed to general lust--so you can give a lot of it to the first girl you click with. And I mean REALLY click. You don't need to find your soul mate, but I learned the hard way that investing my hopes in girls I hardly knew really hurt. I had a vague notion that they weren't interested in me, but I worked so hard to convince myself that they were, that I set myself up for disappointment.
Hope that helps a little. You may have tried a lot of this already, but sometimes I remind myself of this advice so I know what I'm doing right. No, I don't have a girlfriend, but I have a lot of friends who are there for me--and I'm so glad that several of them are girls.
I also learned that friends don't usually reach out to friends on the Internet in difficult times, because the prospective helpers' fear of doing or saying the wrong thing--without semantics and eye contact, at that--is really intimidating. However, I thought it would be okay if I talked to you because I've been through similar sludge. I meant everything I said.
Please, I repeat: Hang in there, dude!
You know Anonymous, it's a shame I don't know who you are. Otherwise, I'd gladly shake your hand.You're right about everything you just said. I have tried those methods before and have gotten little to no results. I think that may be because, I've been spending too much time in my own area that I don't take the time to observe the universe and what it has to offer for me. Thanks for the advice, and don't worry. I ain't goin' anywhere.
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